Stronger than Love
Diary of a Woman Who Loved Too Much
Manuscript in English language, looking for a publisher.
What would you do, if you’d just met your soulmate, and then learned that he was dying of cancer? Would you run away to spare yourself the inevitable pain and loss? Or, would you rather stay to salvage every precious moment left of the bliss, and keep it forever in your heart, regardless of the cost you know you’d have to pay?
It happened to me 25 years ago, when I was in the midst of my recovery from codependence. I met this guy, who was going through a very complicated divorce, and we fell in love, hoping that we just needed to wait a couple of months for him to be free, and then we’d be together. But it’s never that easy! Months turned into a year, and what started as a promise for a lifetime of love, bore more and more resemblance to a rescue mission - something that would endanger my newly attained sobriety from relationship addiction. I was forced to make many difficult choices between loving and codependent caretaking.
Finally, his divorce came through, but only a couple of weeks later he learned that he had cancer. Did the gnawing pain of his toxic marriage transform into the deadly disease? Was he waiting too long, so that his body succumbed? It was too late to waste time on regrets.
We were left a month to live out everything that was meant for a lifetime!
Till death do us part.
STRONGER THAN LOVE REVIEWS
I have just finished reading your book, which left on me such a strong and magnificent impression, that I simply must express my gratitude. Reading it, I often felt as if I really know your feelings and sensations, or that you know mine. As for those things that I have not yet experienced, it seems like you have sown them with your sincere and deep recordings into my soul, where they reside as a living memory. I am particularly grateful for your description of your spiritual experiences, as I have never had a chance to understand the spirituality of a person who is not part of a religious system. You and your spiritual awareness have awakened in me a new view of religion, life and God. This book is so precious, describing with precision, and yet with poetic quality, the essence of life. Death, and Love, which is greater than death. Reading your work has really changed me. Thank you again, for sharing the precious gift of your life, experiences, thoughts, weaknesses, as well as strengths. Thank you for a wonderful example of everything you do in life.
- Ana Vanessa
How to Recognize, Understand and Recover from Behavioral Addictions
A non-fiction manuscript in English language, soon to be published by Brandylane Publishers Inc., Belle Isle Books.
94 464 words.
8 original pictures.
Addiction can come in many forms beyond drugs and alcohol. ‘Behavioral addictions’ is the common term to describe the various forms of repetitive adverse behavior that cannot be stopped by an act of willpower. Addictions to videogames, gambling, food, money, work, relationships or sex, are the new epidemic. These conditions are no less serious than substance addictions. They have detrimental consequences to the person’s life, involve similar chemical processes and response to treatment.
Serenity offers everything you need to know about behavioral addictions: how to recognize and understand them, how they develop and why. Moreover, you will learn how it feels to be addicted, from the many first-person testimonies of people in recovery. Loving a partner, a parent or a child who is addicted is a tough job. How can you know if you are helping or enabling them? What are the boundaries that distinguish love from relationship addiction?
Today, many parents and teachers struggle to come to terms with their kids’ behavior that they don't understand. How much social media, videogames, exercising or dieting is too much? Why are some people unable to stop it, despite serious consequences? Is it just their lack of willpower, or has the line to addiction been crossed? How can anyone be addicted to something everybody does, like using computers, eating, spending, working, having relationships? Am I addicted? How can I recover? How can I prevent the passing of the disease to my children?
Recovery from behavioral addictions is a transformative personal journey. Addiction has affected all walks of life. To recover, one must turn one’s life around in all its dimensions, so a state-of-the-art personalized recovery plan is required to start on the path of recovery. The guidelines to make such a plan, guaranteed to work, will be given in Serenity.
More often than not, addicts suffer from more than one behavioral or substance addictions, coexisting and reinforcing each other (like tobacco, caffeine and work addictions). The dysregulated neural pathways will return to the baseline after a period of abstinence, under the condition that all addictive behaviors be stopped. If we leave even one of such ‘pleasure shortcuts’ open, there is danger that the problems might resurface there. Rather than just browsing through the pages, the reader will be engaged to interact by doing the exercises at the ends of chapters. The core message is: “You can do something about it!”